The Mailbox
We get lots of mail here at CUFS Central.....some of it is
really cool, some sincere...some....well, just plain weird!
We thought we'd share some of
the emails with you!
Most authors will remain anonymous (unless otherwise specified).
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FYI - Intimate letters and letters
asking for advice will NEVER be posted!
We respect our members privacy in such
matters.
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Letters about
CUFSmaine/CUFSnorth
The CUFSmaine/CUFSnorth
Organization
Our Munch and Newsletter
The CUFSmaine/CUFSnorth Website
Compliments on Classes
Our Outreach Work
Requests, Requests,
Requests!
Comments about Ren's
Writing:
Primer for Male Submissives
All 'Men' Are Created Equally (Or….Why I Don't Believe in Female Superiority)
Ren's 'Crocodile
Hunter' Infatuation
Military Men and the Domme
Who Loves Them
Traveling With Toys
Questions About BDSM, Kink, and Everything Related
Weird and Wacky
Correspondence
Special Letters
Letters About CUFSmaine/CUFSnorth
The CUFSmaine/CUFSnorth
Organization
~~ A Letter of Thanks
:) ~~
Subj: Re: August Munch
Date: 8/27/01 12:39:59 PM Eastern Daylight Time
From:******@*****.****
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com You two are to be commended for maintaining CUFSmaine
and allowing those of us who wish or need to remain in the closet to do so and yet connect with the community of similar interests. *****
~~ From Russia, with questions..... ~~
Subj: BDSM club in Russia
Date: 8/6/02 2:23:08 PM Eastern Daylight Time
From: ******@rambler.ru
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com
Dear Sir or Madam,
My name is ********, I?m writing to you as a member of BDSM community in St.
Petersburg, Russia.
Your internet resource is now well-known among Russian people interested in
BD/DS/SM relations. We have several our own local sites which in fact helped us
to find one another. But now we feel this is not enough and I?ve decided to ask
your advice.
We?d like to form a kind of organization with a legal status (if it is
possible), something more than just our internet-bound community, so that we
could help people to find and meet partners and friends, spend time together in
interesting events, and so on. We?d like to have possibility to advertise our
club, events, master-classes, to have conferences and meetings as you do.
Legality is our main problem now. There has never been a BDSM-organization in
Russia like yours, though there are lots of widely known gay or swinger
communities which advertise their clubs in papers. Specific features of BDSM
life don?t allow us to follow their steps in creating our club. We fear that our
club-to-be may be juridically accused of propaganda of violence and so on. As I
see it, this is a problem of how to represent the club in order to avoid this
danger.
Could you tell us how BDSM communities in your country solve this problem? What
juridical form and basis do they have? How did you get through the process of
registration if you had one?
We would be grateful if you could give us a piece of advice on how to run a bdsm
club, and we would be happy some day in future to welcome you as our guests
here, in St. Petersburg.
Sincerely yours,
******** ********
Our Munch and Newsletter
~~
More Kind words :) ~~
Subj: Re: The 'CUF Link' # 64 - October 2002
Date: 10/20/02 6:54:57 PM Eastern Daylight Time
From: **********
To: CUFSmaine
.....I also would like to take a moment to personally thank you for keeping me
informed of all the different things that are happening in the New England area.
You have a fantastic newsletter!
Keep up the great work!
Thanks,
**********
~~ Thanks For All You Do ~~
Subj: Re: The 'CUF Link' #97 - July 2005
Date: 8/4/2005 7:31:30 PM Eastern Standard Time
From: *******@maine.rr.com
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com
Sent from the Internet (Details)
Ren,
Just wanted to tell you and Joe that this is an amazing newsletter. I take so
much for granted and I wanted to make sure I said thank you so much for all you
do for the community.
** ****
The CUFSmaine/CUFSnorth Website
~~ Kind Words ~~
Subj: your website
Date: 12/2/01 11:51:15 AM Eastern Standard Time
From: ********@***********
To: cufsmaine@aol.com
Hi:
Submissive Sadie from VT recommended I visit your website to check out an article on Etiquette. Very informative as is your entire site. As a "newbie", I'm searching for answers to a ton of questions and your site was very helpful. I'm trying to limit my research to VT, NH, and ME just because I feel like I'll get a better "flavor" hearing it from people who live in my neck of the woods. Thanks and keep up the good work!
*****
~~ Julia Child - Watch out (but keep
the fire extinguisher handy)!! :P ~~
Subj:
Date: 10/11/02 10:27:33 PM Eastern Daylight Time
From: *************
To: CUFSmaine
Over the last weekend I was looking at the CUFS website and must say how very
impressed I was with the quality and quantity of information there. The amount
of time and love that you, your husband, and others have put into it is obvious.
I learned much, and laughed a lot to! "Sex in a Bowl" was great!.... If you ever
need help in the kitchen Ren.<G> Hey.... How about your own cooking show :-o
*************
~~ Compliments and a Comment ~~
Subj: Quick comment
Date: 1/31/03 2:54:31 PM Eastern Standard Time
From: *******@magma.ca
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com
Sent from the Internet (Details)
Mistress Ren (et al?),
First, let me thank you for an absolutely wonderful web site. I only had the
chance to go through some of it, but I particularly enjoyed the links under
"BDSM basics". As someone who's more into the DS aspects than Bondage or SM, I
find that I don't always have the information at-hand that I would like. (Even
though my partner seems to be an unmitigated wealth of information, he's not
always around at the moment I need the info!)
Do you have any restrictions in terms of who I can send your links to? I'm only
thinking of a couple of friends who might be interested, but in the event that I
decide to post it to a list, I thought I should check with you first.
In regards to your Top 10 Myths page (http://www.cufsmaine.org/topten.htm),
I'd just like to point out that in point #1, not EVERYBODY who practices BDSM
attends classes to learn the safe use of certain equipment. Often, people will
book-learn, or be taught by a mentor, or even (as in my case) their partner. I
think it's definitely a good point to make that almost everybody in the scene is
taught somehow by someone, though unfortunately, there are always those out
there who have little to no "proper" education about the subject.
Once again, good job!
Sincerely,
Master ***
~~ Website Compliments ~~
Subj: a 'site' for sore eyes *s*
Date: 6/30/03 8:55:07 PM Eastern Daylight Time
From: ***********@mastersandsubmissives.com
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com
Sent from the Internet (Details)
Hello to You both~
I was browsing around the 'net today, and wonder of wonders, where did I land
but upon your wonderful site. I had a bit of free time so I started reading, and
with each page my smile grew and my pulse gave a lil 'hurry-up'...lol.
What can I say but WOW. Visiting a pretty vast array of sites, I see the same
thing over and over. The same articles, the same parroted information, no
passion, no originality and very little honesty. I was so happy with all I was
seeing at your site, I just had to contact you. You've created a wonderful
resource! What a lucky place Maine is *s*
I'm just so very impressed with the writing, the design and the superior content
of your site, I want very much to rush to my links page and add CUFS Maine to
it. So that brings us around to my query...... do you have a banner that I might
copy to use as a link? or a text link? or... something altogether different? I
simply MUST direct the viewers of my site to yours, I just have to. *s*
Again, I just have to express my pleasure in visiting your site, I intend to
return and devour every little bit I can find *S* Thank you for making such a
spot on the internet.. for even those of us who are no where near Maine to share
in. :)
Love in the lifestyle~
***********
http://www.mastersandsubmissives.com
~~ My Thanks ~~
Subj: Very nice website
Date: 12/1/2003 12:21:05 PM Eastern Standard Time
From: ***********@cs.com
To: CUFSmaine
Thank you for a very nice website. I have been curious for a while now and have
been looking for a place to go to meet other people. I got your website address
off of another website. It is better than the now defunct
www.centralmainealliance.org .
I look forward to the opportunity to attend one of what I hope will be many
munches and meeting potential dom/mes.
Thanks again,
*****
Compliments on Classes
~~ A Letter of Thanks :) ~~
Subj: About the bondage 101 class
Date: 1/31/2004 8:56:30 AM Eastern Standard Time
From: ***********@yahoo.com
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com
Sent from the Internet (Details)
Hi there,
I am am one of your new folks from the munch and I was REALLY bummed I am going
to miss the next class on Feb 29th. I am [going out of state] on the 28th so
sadly will miss the munch as well. I was wondering if there may be a chance you
might be holding that same "bondage 101" class again later in the year as well,
it is a class that is one a new folk wouldn't want to miss out on... Is there
the chance possibility of a repeat class later?
Also a very special Thank You again to you both for holding the [Erotic Choking]
class for only two of us, it says alot about how wonderfully dedicated you are!
Much appreciated and a gracious Thank You! I am looking into taking Judo here
in my area. I was so impressed with you both, you made it look easy and I can
use all the self defense and tactics work in my job!
Thank You,
********
Our
Outreach Work
NOTE: Nothing we have done caused as much controversy in the community as
our being 'removed' from a New Hampshire BDSM group by their board after we
announced that we- at the request of NH BDSMers and alternative lifestylers -
were going to start outreach work in New Hampshire .
This group was under the mistaken impression that we were going to 'out'
group leaders and members during our work. No amount of discussion on our
part could convince them otherwise, and our insistence of continuing with our
work caused us to be 'shunned' by this group.
The following are some of the letters of support we received:
~~ Support ~~
Subj: Re: Leaving the ***** Group
Date: 11/12/2003 10:00:26 AM Eastern Standard Time
From: ***************@hotmail.com
To: MstressRen@aol.com
Sent from the Internet (Details)
Hello Ren -Being a bit "out of the loop" on news, this was the first I had heard
of this. Just wanted to wish you and lafayette the best of luck in setting up an
outreach program in NH. I know that CUFS has been an invaluable organization
here in Maine. I was personally grateful to have you here when I myself was
abused by a so-called "Dom" when first entering the lifestyle and had someone
with the appropriate education and information to turn to. Thanks again for that
shoulder :-) I know that through your outreach (along with other participating
locals) we have been able to maintain a good relationship with the local police
departments and continue with public play nights at the Underground, even with
the opposition of some religious organizations. It saddens me that you are being
turned away, but I know that you are a strong woman and will do what needs to be
done in the best interest of BDSM.
Take care, *********
~~ Support ~~
Subj: Re: Leaving the ***** Group
Date: 11/12/2003 3:18:28 AM Eastern Standard Time
From: *******@yahoo.com
To: MstressRen@aol.com
Sent from the Internet (Details)
Hi Renee,
Due to huge changes in my life the past few months (i am on extended stay in
***** with my new grandson), i have not kept up with the posts on *****, so i
was not aware of any problems. i just want to let you know that i am in
agreement with you and please feel free to post from my group ******. . i have
educated professional people about the lifestyle with positive results and
acceptance and believe it is important to educate those who are not in the
lifestyle. What you are doing is important work and you have my support.
***** - *******
~~ Support ~~
Date: Thu, 13 Nov 2003 09:51:55 -0800 (PST)
From: *************@yahoo.com>
Subject: Re: shunning
Education about BDSM or Ds relationships does not have to OUT anyone but the
people who choose to do the presenting.
No groups names have to be mentioned although it certainly helps back up ideas
when more people come forward. I've seen the great work that has taken place in
Maine and the freedom they have there to maintain life and relationships as well
have more public activities. some people enjoy attending places like Manray in
Massachusetts or the Underground in Maine, and the only reason they are able to
do so is because of public outreach
I applaud Mistress Ren and joe for the efforts they are making in the
communities behalf
****** ******
~~ Support ~~
Date: Thu, 13 Nov 2003 16:33:12 -0500
From: *****@suscom-maine.net
Subject: Re: shunning
I also applaud Mistress Ren and joe for the efforts they are making on the
communities behalf.
******* ****
Requests, Requests, Requests
~~ Parlez-Vous Finnish??
~~
Subj: Inquiry for translations...
Date: 10/28/00 12:20:01 PM Eastern Daylight Time
From: ************************
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com
Dear Ren and LesVoiles
I go impolitely straight to the business.
I´m going to start BDSM discussion and support group here in North- Finland
hopely during next month. I have been looking for sources to get some ideas
about important basic things like BDSM etiquette and safety. My first idea was
write texts to our members by my self, but now I have found these web pages of
Yours and You have been written articles just like I have been thinking these
things. There´s no point for me to try to say these things in another words.
So.I´m asking kindly Your permission for me to translate in Finnish Your essays
about Etiquette (www.cufsmaine.org/etiquett.htm)
and if not all safety parts at least Online Safety (www.cufsmaine.org/safeonln.htm) I´ll include all source
informations and the web address where originally text can be found in
translations. I´d like to print one copy about these texts so it can be found in
our office for members to read and I would also like to sent translations into
our Only Members email group if possible. But if I get Your permission I´ll of
couse do as Your wish is.
I assure that I understand English much, much better than I write. So You can be
sure that You won´t find any mistakes from my translations like You can now from
this e- mail.
And I´d like to thank You for updating Your web- pages.
I hope to hear from You soon,
**************
~~
Ms. Manners eat your heart out! ~~
Subj:
Date: 6/3/01 9:46:47 PM Eastern Daylight Time
From: ***@****.***
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com
i enjoyed Your site..i ask most respectfully that i be allowed to paste Your
etiquette page at my Master's and my site. i found it to be quite informative
and pleasant.
Please reply, Sir.
*******
~~ I love request like
this! ~~
Subj: Article request
Date: 2/9/03 10:41:00 PM Eastern Standard Time
From: *********@hotmail.com
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com
Sent from the Internet (Details)
Dear Ren,
I am writing to request permission to distribute copies of four articles from
the CUFSMaine website. The articles (listed below) will be available as handouts
to interested local health care practitioners attending a presentation on
alternative sexuality. Full credit will be given to you as the author and the
CUFS website, and the statement “Reproduced with permission” will be added to
the bottom of each article. I would appreciate hearing from you soon, as the
information session takes place this week.
The articles are:
"I'm Afraid to Go to the Emergency Room": Maine Hospital Procedures for
Alternative Lifestylers in Need of Emergency Medical Care and Information for
Hospital Personnel Regarding Alternative Lifestyle Patients and Their Injuries.
A Collaborative Effort of CUFSMaine and Your Area Hospital
http://www.cufsmaine.org/imafraid.htm
The Top Ten Myths About BDSM and the People Who Practice It
http://www.cufsmaine.org/topten.htm
BDSM vs. Abuse
http://www.cufsmaine.org/bdsmvsab.htm
Safety Equipment and Suggestions
http://www.cufsmaine.org/safequip.htm
Thank you very much for your attention to this matter, and I will look forward
to your reply.
Sincerely,
**** *
Sex Educator
~~ Reposting Request ~~
Subj: Permission to Repost?
Date: 6/24/03 12:55:07 AM Eastern Daylight Time
From: ******************@hotmail.com
To:
Hello,
I am looking to gain permission to repost the wonderfully complete "First
Meeting Safety" page <http://www.cufsmaine.org/safemeet.htm> on our website
<http://therisingphoenix.tripod.com>
.
Basically, your page is the best I have seen and I would rather not
re-invent the wheel in this regard.
Thank you for your consideration.
*******
(The Order of the Rising Phoenix)
~~ From one of my fellow NLAI-DV Regional
Coordinators ~~
Subj: [NLAIDVcoordinators] Ren!!!
Date: 2/28/2004 3:02:03 AM Eastern Standard Time
From: *********@yahoo.com
Reply-to: NLAIDVcoordinators
To: NLAIDVcoordinators
Sent from the Internet (Details)
Would you mind if I use your differences between bdsm and abuse file that is
posted from CUFSmaine? I am doing a talk in Fort Smith, Arkansas on March
16th and another in Stillwater, OK. on March 31st. The sheet is wonderful
information for a handout and I would love to do so if it is agreeable.
Thanks,
******
~~ Going Academic ~~
Subj: list bdsm vs. abuse
Date: 3/29/2004 6:08:00 PM Eastern Standard Time
From: ******@minoan.gr
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com
Sent from the Internet (Details)
hello, my name is ********, and I live in Athens, Greece (city of the Olympics
2004), and I am doing a paper for my Psychology M.Sc. titled Pain, how an
aversive stimulus converts into a sexual aphrodisiac.
While searching for various sources, I found very interestingly placed, your
list depicting the differences between bdsm and abuse. Could I please by
providing the link of your site, copy the entire list as it is?
Please reply to me as soon as possible because i need to finish my paper this
coming Wednesday!
Thanks a lot!
********
~~ Another Article Request ~~
Subj: First Scene Safety
Date: 10/20/2005 11:51:18 PM Eastern Daylight Time
From: ********_*****@cox.net
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com
Sent from the Internet (Details)
Hi!
I am putting together a section on my website on safety.
I came across your article "First Scene Safety". I was wondering, with your
permission, if I may use this article? I feel it would be great benefit to my
readers.
Many thanks in advance.
Sincerely,
******
Comments About Ren's Writing:
A Primer For Male Submissives
~~ Doing My Duty as a Domme :) ~~
Subj: Brava!!!
Date: 3/12/2004 3:17:14 AM Eastern Standard Time
From: **********
To: CUFSmaine
Mistress Ren,
In my ever constant search for information to give newbie male submissives I
stumbled across your page [A Primer For Male Submissives: What Female Dominants
are REALLY Looking For]. Brava dear lady, Brava!!
As I read it, I felt as if I had written every word, it follows my thinking
exactly and I couldn't agree more with what you said on every point. I am going
to make this one of the things that I send to all male submissives, potentials
or not. Thank you so very much for your well written, and obviously well thought
out writings. You do our community a service by presenting your thoughts.
Sincerely,
** *******
~~ The Perfect D/s Dinner Conversation...
~~
Subj: Feedback on your article
Date: 5/2/2004 11:53:24 AM Eastern Standard Time
From: ******@comcast.net
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com
Sent from the Internet (Details)
Hi,
I was recently looking for some "talking points" for a date I had coming up. As
a male submissive who hasn't been "out there" much, I've worried that I wasn't
really "sub enough" to enter a relationship with a Domme. The media stuff I've
seen has pretty much reinforced that notion. It all looked pretty extreme in
comparison to what I had mind.
Your article at
http://www.cufsmaine.org/subprimer.htm was a refreshing, realistic
look at what a "normal" D/s relationship revolves around. Except for the
particular ways they're expressed, it's just about the same as it always is:
trust, loyalty, dependability, patience, caring, etc. It calmed a lot of fears
I've had. It also reminded of something I know but often forget; that media
never reflects life without distorting it.
Maybe I'll even find a way to work your article into some dinner conversation...
:)
Thanks again,
*** *
~~ Learning Tool ~~
Subj: A Primer For Male Submissives
Date: 8/26/2005 8:16:56 AM Eastern Standard Time
From: ****************540@yahoo.com
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com
Sent from the Internet (Details)
Greetings Mistress Ren :)
I am a 23yr old male who is new to the BDSM scene and i came across your article
on a website and i have to say it has been an invaluable read! i have only now
fully understood who i am and what my precious Mistress truely wants from me.
Since reading your paper, i have become good friends with my Mistress and we
have been having a great time hehe. Having said i have only been made her pet
for nearly a week but i am feeling more and more comfortable and knowledgable as
i keep referring to your article:)
your humble stranger
**** :)
All 'Men' Are Created Equally (Or….Why I Don't Believe in Female Superiority)
~~ Rumors, Rumors ~~
Subj: Re: The 'CUF Link' #81 - March 2004
Date: 3/26/2004 3:53:26 PM Eastern Standard Time
From: ********@ix.netcom.com
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com
Sent from the Internet (Details)
Dear Ren,
I enjoyed your little rant: All 'Men' Are Created Equally (Or….Why I Don't
Believe in Female Superiority)
Its possible that the rumor I heard about you might well be true. Something to
the effect that you might be one of those few women who actually does have a
clue!
My compliments. LOL
***** ***
~~ a submissive man speaks out! ~~
Subj: JUst a quicky for Mistress Ren's article...............
Date: 3/31/2004 9:35:38 AM Eastern Standard Time
From: ***********@hotmail.com
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com
Sent from the Internet (Details)
From a submissive male to an obviously intelligent and worldly dom. I have to
say that your article is great and so true.
I am luck enough to be part of a 50/50 S&M relationship and believe that the
relationship is exactly as you say a partnership of give and take in equal
amounts! Including respect and love, caring and empathy.
If you do not have a strong relationship in REAL terms then the S&M relationship
is not REAL! To truly feel satisfying you as a dom need to know that the
submission is out of choice and love. That this man in front of you is giving
himself to you out of total love and commitment......unconditionally to give to
you as much as you are to him.
The feeling of total dominance is strenghtened by the fact that out of role play
and S&M sex sessions the male can be dominant. This shows the dom female that he
would be submissive for his mistress to please her and this makes his enjoyment
greater as he knows he is pleasing his mistress and vise versa.
Well just some thoughts back to work,
****
~~ Food for Thought...~~
Subj: just some thoughts on Mistress ren's article
Date: 8/30/2005 12:36:59 PM Eastern Daylight Time
From: ************
To: CUFSmaine
Mistress Ren
i just read Your article where You wrote that You do not believe in "Female
Superiority" . . that You do not feel that You are superior to men.
but Your writing with such great insight proves the opposite is in fact true . .
You ARE Superior . . . and males are inferior . . . and males Do need female
domination and training in order to become, "all that they can be' . . or
rather, "all that they should be".
i believe that all of the violence and hate . . and all of the 'wars' in the
world could be and would be ameliorated and even eliminated, if Women ruled.
they are strong, strict, stringent . . .but always intelligently compassionate
and merciful and caring . . .yes, the world would be a far better place if Women
held the reins of power and authority.
thank You for writing . . . and reading this,
******* * ******
pennsylvania usa
Ren's 'Crocodile Hunter'
Infatuation......
~~
Regarding Ren's
'Crocodile Hunter' Infatuation......
~~
Subj: That's my Uncle!
Date: 3/21/01 2:23:09 PM Eastern Standard Time
From: ********************
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com
<< LOL
I really enjoyed reading your last newsletter about Mr.Irwin! I was kind
of taken back by it, because he is my uncle. It was bizarre, reading an
article about him, my air-headed uncle. Anyhow, we enjoyed many laughs
together when I read it to him over the phone. Who knows, maybe he will
show up at your next meeting. >>
For those of you who missed that piece from our Newsletter,
here it is:
I have a confession to make ..... I am totally infatuated with a
celebrity.
Not surprising, since most people have interest in somebody they will probably
never meet or have the chance to get involved with.
While most women my age go ga-ga over Harrison Ford, Paul Newman, or Tom Cruise
- each a talented and studly specimen - I lust over Steve Irwin .......
.... Yes ....... the Crocodile Hunter.
How do I describe my infatuation with the Croc Hunter? It is actually twofold.
First of all, he is damn cute! Blonde hair that always has a sexy mussed up
quality .... that cute devil-may-care smile, sparkling eyes, boyish exhuberance
..... and that khaki shirt and shorts! Oh!! My uniform fetish goes into
overdrive!
Every day, when I switch on Animal Planet and catch his show, I think about the
possibilities of playing with Steve Irwin. How can you not want to scene with a
man who is fearless, can wind duct tape so expertly, and can tie such snug
knots?? Every time he makes a point by slamming his hands together and
exclaiming 'Wham!" I feel a sudden desire to rediscover being a submissive. :)
Ohhhhh .... and that accent! How could anyone resist?? Imagine him circling a
submissive, a snakebite kit in hand, gleefully saying. " 'Ave a look at these
l'ttle nippers, would ya!"
I get goosebumps just thinking about it! :)
But .... then my Domme side takes over .... and there, too, the possibilities
are endless! Steve Irwin strapped to the hood of his land rover awaiting my
pleasures. Steve Irwin crawling on his hands and knees (Mmmmmmm) .... and Steve
Irwin ..... in over head suspension, eyes wide, wondering where I will strike
next .....
Can't you just hear him saying, 'Oh, CRIKEY!!"
Mistress Ren - lusting over Aussies in Khakis :)
Military Men and the Domme
Who Loves Them
~ So many Serviceman......
~~
Subj: Website
Date: 6/25/2005 5:06:55 PM Eastern Standard Time
From: *********
To: CUFSmaine
I just read the article from Mistress Ren. As a service man (Navy) and a
submissive, I am happy to see that. To bad I don't know anyone else in the life
style here (Kentucky). Oh well.
ASAN ******* *******
Traveling With Toys
~~ Correcting a Misconception ~~
Subj: Toys site
Date: 7/11/2004 1:43:44 PM Eastern Standard Time
From: ********@bigfoot.com
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com
Sent from the Internet (Details)
Your "traveling with toys" site is well done, but I would like to correct one
misconception. Refusing to consent to a search of your car will NOT place you
"under suspicion." You have a Fourth Amendment right to refuse warrantless
searches. Many people waive that right by consenting to a search, but exercising
the right is perfectly legal, and absolutely cannot be held against you by a
police officer, nor is it grounds for arrest. If the police officer has
specific reason to suspect you of a crime - you're driving erratically or you've
already tried to evade arrest - then yes, but during a routine traffic stop, you
have a Constitutional right to respectfully decline a search without suffering
any consequences.
Questions About
BDSM, Kink, and Everything Related
~~ Hmmmm......Just how DOES that
go......? ~~
Subj: hankie codes
Date: 7/4/02
From: *************@yahoo.com.au
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com
Greetings,
I was wondering- in your article on hankie codes it says that people in the US
use Left/right for top/bottom and that people in the UK do it opposite. I live
in Australia, thus I was wondering which way it would be done here. Any
help on this subject would be appreciated.
Thanks in advance,
*****
The Questions Stumps Us........
Good question, *****! I'm sorry, but I am afraid I do not know the answer.
I would suggest getting in touch with one of the Australian Gay/lesbian BDSM
support groups, or even a local gay bar...I'm sure that somebody there would be
able to answer the question for you.
Wishing you the best,
Mistress Ren
And then...one day....when the suspense was killing us.....the Answer!!!
Subj: Re: Re- hankie codes
Date: 7/28/02 11:28:00 PM Eastern Daylight Time
From: *************@yahoo.com.au
Greetings,
Just as a matter of interest, I found that Australians follow the American code.
*****
Now...if I ever go 'down under' I
will flash correctly!
Weird and Wacky Correspondence
~~ We Always Wondered About Him......
~~
Subj: StephenKing
Date: 3/19/01 10:52:59 PM Eastern Standard Time
From: *******************
To: CUFSMaine@aol.com
Hi, I hope all is well with you guys up North. I just wanted to give you a
late breaking story related to Maine, Bangor to be specific. If you happen
to get the Spring Issue, #35, of Skin Two with a paramilitary looking woman on
the cover (Danger Women theme) please look at Page 18 where you will find my
photo and story (translated into Brit-speak) of Stephen King and Amy Tan.
The authors plus other authors and pro musicians are part of a band, The Rock
Bottom Remainders, who only perform for charity. One of the things Amy Tan
does is dress up like a Dominatrix, sing "These Boots Were Made For Walking",
and then pretends to flog the backsides of band members including Mr. King hence
my photo and where it appears. I have had another pic in Skin Two and hope
to have many more.
Please keep me up to date with your events,
Best to you,
********************
~~ Calgon! Take Me Away!!
~~
Subj: Use of Telephone in Bathtub
Date: 3/26/01 3:13:07 PM Eastern Standard Time
From: ********************
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com
Dear Sir/Madam,
Hopefully you can answer a safety question for me. My wife has a habit of taking
the cordless telephone with her into a bath. Is this dangerous? Could she be
electrocuted if the phone fell into the water?
******************
Our Reply.....
Hi *******,
According to LesVoiles, our resident gadget wiz, it's not overtly dangerous. A
mild shock from the phone battery is possible, but electrocution is
not.....unless she takes the plug-in base unit with her. :)
Sincerely,
Ren and LesVoiles
And the Final Response....
Subj: Re: Use of Telephone in Bathtub
Date: 3/26/01 8:05:26 PM Eastern Standard Time
From: **********@yahoo.com
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com
Thanks so much for your timely reply. I am very relieved.
Maine, New England and Bali???
Subj: Swinging
Date: 4/16/01 6:06:15 AM Eastern Daylight Time
From: unknownsender@unknown.domain
Reply-to: ****************
To: CUFSmaine@aol.com
Hello,
My name is ****** and I noticed you are into swinging. I live in Bali Indonesia and wondered if you had any plans to come to Bali. My wife is Indonesian and very beautiful. We like to participate in swinging activities and hope you do too. Can you send me some information and possibly a photo of you. Please look at our ad with a picture at http://clubs.yahoo.com/clubs/baliswingersclub
Thank you,
***** & ******
Special Letters
~~ A Treasured Letter from a BDSM
Icon :) ~~
Subj: To Les Voiles
Date: 4/9/03 5:17:17 PM Eastern Daylight Time
From: *************
To: CUFSmaine
Hi
My name is Viola Johnson. Your review of "To Love To Obey To Serve" was just
sent to me by a member of my leather family. I wanted to take a minute to
personally thank you for the review and for allowing parts of my life to touch
yours.
You are very correct in saying that I grew, over the years of my quest. The
perfect vision of hindsight reinforces what previous generations have said ...
"it's not the goal that is important, it's the journey." I have been privileged
to have some of the next generation of Leatherfolk understand and share in my
journey. Thank you for being one of them.
Viola
PS The problem with reading the journal of another person is that much of the
day to day entries don't make sense unless you were a part of the story. If you
would like to hear the rest of the "Tiger Story" Let me know. <G>
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