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What the
Hell Is A Munch??
At one of our first Munch meetings, we met a young woman who was
attending for the first time. She
had much to say, and made a great impression on us all.
After the Munch, she confided to us that she was "terrified" to
attend. She had actually planned to
attend a few months earlier, but, in her words, "chickened out."
Why?? She didn't know what to expect, or what would happen at a
meeting. She was worried she would
have to 'do' something (play or serve).....or would be expected to act her as a
submissive to all present.
We have heard these fears before........... Sooooooo.............in the
interest of making everyone who is having doubts comfortable, we are going to
let you all in on exactly what a munch is.
:)
Our friend in Boston, SubStephen, describes a munch as "a casual,
non-play, social gathering of people interested in alternative sexuality,
including BDSM (B&D = Bondage
& Discipline, D/S = Dominance/Submission, S&M = Sadomasochism), sexual
fetishes, and adult fantasy roleplay."
Boy....he
pegged it!
Munches are casual. Wear
your jeans. Wear your favorite
Loony Tunes T-shirt. Wear whatever
you wore to work (unless you are a
Pro-Domme....then wear whatever YOU wear to the mall
<grin>) Bring your interested spouse, S.O., friend, neighbor,
whoever. They do not have to belong
to CUFS....they just have to be interested.
Munches are non-play events. Oh
man....if you could see some of the questions we have gotten about this!
When we
first started the CUFS Munch and we used to meet at the Maine Mall, we had
somebody ask us once "Doesn't security bother you when you are whipping
someone in the food court??"
Seriously!!!
Munches are
strictly social. So....What do we
talk about? All kinds of stuff.
Upcoming events and parties....couples who are dating or looking for
partners ..... references on possible partners.....the great shoes somebody
picked up on sale.....Politics......child rearing.....etc.
You get the point. We talk
about everything. Have a question
about how a D/s toy works? We
discuss it. Looking for the best
sushi in Portland.....we get into that, too.
:)
Munches are a social gathering of people interested in alternative
sexuality. Interested in Pony play?
Bondage? Foot Worship?
This is your place. Interested
in stamp collecting? This is
probably not the group for you.....although a few of us could tell you a few
interesting places to paste them. :)
An average CUFS Munch goes like this:
we walk in and get coffee, juice, soda, etc.
We talk
about everything perverted and not perverted under the sun.
We have a set discussion and sometimes an impromptu discussion. We get
silly - we get serious. We order more coffee. We
laugh and joke and occasionally get a bit rowdy. We look at our watches and say "Wow!! Look what time it
is!!" We all head home.
Sounds kinky....huh??
But not
every Munch is alike: some are held at a local shopping mall food court and are
primarily social events. Some are
held in restaurants, and may or may not be just social - they may include a
meeting or sharing of information. Some
Munches are held at private BDSM clubs with a play party following. Sometimes, if the weather is good, they are held in parks or
at the beach.
Often, many
states, like Massachusetts and New York, will have a variety of Munches held on
different days in different locations. This
allows you to attend and sample each one and decide which forum is the most
comfortable for you.
If you would like to take a 'first step' into the real time BDSM
community, a Munch is the perfect way to get started. Don't be shy...don't be worried. Attending a Munch has it's
advantages..... And the best
benefit.....meeting others who think and feel just like you!!
:)
Copyright Mistress Ren and LesVoiles 2000
By Todd H. ©
Reprinted with permission
The Munch has become a way to meet folks that are into BDSM in an
informal and hassle-free environment. Usually the setting for a
"munch" is a restaurant or coffee shop or similar environment. Munches
have become a common occurrence nationwide (and in a few cases…worldwide)
thanks to the Internet.
However, some of you may not know that the custom of Munches (AKA
"Burger Munches") started in the San Francisco Bay Area. In the early
90s, occasionally there were informal dinner gatherings of Bay Area folk into
SM, but these were sporadic and not regular events. One day (sometime around
April, 1992), a woman named Stella who posted regularly to the Usenet newsgroup,
alt.sex.bondage, posted an article to the group saying she would be at Kirk's in
Palo Alto (a hamburger take-out restaurant) that evening and that anyone wishing
to join her was welcome.
She felt that it would be useful to have a regular weekly predictable
get-together, so that folks would not have to remember which day, what location,
but could just head on over to the same place at the same time every week.
Several people did show up that night and hence the concept of the Munch was
born.
By Searcher ©
Reprinted with permission
www.TheMunch.org
What's A Munch?
A munch is a gathering of Scene-friendly people, usually at mealtime.
Why Should I Go To
This One?
If you're new to the Scene, or just slightly curious about this type of
play, a munch in a public place is a safe, non-threatening way to check out some
like-minded people. You can watch us from a distance and not even introduce
yourself, if you like.
What Sort Of People
Show Up At These?
It varies from week to week. Ages range from early twenties through late
fifties. All genders, sexual orientations, and BDSM preferences have probably
been represented at one time or another.
Is There Any Play At
The Munch?
Nope. Occasionally, someone brings a toy to show off discreetly, but
that's as far as it goes. Wear what you'd normally wear to a coffee shop.
So What Goes On At
The Munch?
People sit around and talk. Some
drop in for a short time, others stay until later.
Some of the talk is related to the scene, some isn't.
Some people get drinks or food, others don't.
How Will I Recognize
The Group?
Some groups hang balloons; some use a very discreet sign, such as a
flower.
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08/27/05
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